It’s mid-January, perhaps the holiday glow has already warn off, and
you’re either overwhelmed or depressed thinking about the mountains you
will need to climb in the year ahead? Or perhaps you’re assuming it will
be the same old depressing year as last year?
When the mind is in this state it tends to think in black or white type thinking. ‘It’s always going to be like this.’ OR, ‘I will never get to where I want.’ Or, ‘I don’t have it in me to keep going like this.’
This is your cue to heed caution if you decide to listen to your mind (which I get is hard not to do sometimes). But these are only thoughts, which means they are not completely true. And when they are black and white, it is especially likely that they are less true.
When we’re thinking this way, the mind is usually in either the past or the future. The problem with this is that we are not in the present moment.
Real aliveness only exists here in the present. This means that by remaining in the past, or perhaps longing for a different future, you are closing yourself off to possibilities that actually exist in the here and now.
Sometimes the challenge is that the future looks so much more alluring (I’m thinking of that warm beach in Mexico, while it is minus 20 here today). BUT, while you are sitting thinking about that warm beach, you’re not really here. And the only real place is the here and now…
And if that feels depressing, find a way to help yourself make it feel more uplifting. Perhaps carving out some time for a hot bath, or enjoying a delicious warm meal. Ideally any activity that helps to quiet the mind, even just a little. When the mind is quiet, we are more naturally inclined to reside in the here and now (and to feel more peaceful). And this is the place where miracles can actually happen…
So the next time you find yourself feeling depressed about the future, or wishing you were on that family vacation again. Take a breath. Find a way to relax. And carve out some YOU time.
I’ll be right here beside you, cheering you on. 😊